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Post by Jaka on Oct 29, 2010 2:06:52 GMT
Hi All. I am feeling kinda depressed and lonely due to life issues that I feel aggravated by and sick of. Does anyone ever feel like they are honestly experiencing the same problem at a different angle over and over again?
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Post by Dangeresque on Oct 29, 2010 2:20:22 GMT
All the time. Damn sites and damn school and damn parents (or, more accuratly, parent) and stupid people... all these things spout similar problems on a regular basis.
What advice can I give? I can barly solve my own! !
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Post by Poly on Oct 29, 2010 3:12:48 GMT
Well you know what you do...
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Post by Jaka on Oct 29, 2010 16:27:08 GMT
No I don't know what to do, that's the problem! I have no one to talk to because all my girl friends are always too busy to finish a conversation on facebook, my parents are the problem, the person I have the problem with besides my parents is being cold so it's hard to apologize, and my brother just laughs at me or ignores me when I try to talk to him. The only person I slightly managed to talk to is too close to the problem to be any real comfort and I just feel so lost and alone. (I have always relied on other people to help comfort and guide me. I think this may be a big problem in my personality.)
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Post by wormwood on Oct 29, 2010 17:10:09 GMT
You could just spill your guts here. Sure, many of us are misguided and lame, but usually you'll get sympathetic responses from this community for genuine problems. You'll also get a few pieces of contradictory advice to choose from.
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Post by Poly on Oct 29, 2010 17:13:14 GMT
I was baiting you... Normally the conversation works like this: ME: You know what you do... THEM: What? ME: I don't know what you do! Do you think I follow you around all day? I mean sure you're a little interesting but don't get all big headed. I said a little!
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Post by wormwood on Oct 29, 2010 17:19:05 GMT
Arthur: "It's times like this I wish I'd listened to what my mother always used to say."
Ford: "Oh, what did she say?"
Arthur: "I don't know, I wasn't listening!"
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Post by Jaka on Oct 29, 2010 18:49:26 GMT
might as well, others have and seem better for it.
My problem is as follows. About two years back I was in a roleplaying group comprised entirely of older guys. As I started to become better friends with them including playing the same muds as one things got worse. I felt bad for this guy friend because he wasn't as popular as me. So I stupidly agreed to have our characters date in game. It got out of control and eventually my parents found out. (I am very glad they did because I was way to foolish to know how to handle it.) Long storyshort this guy and me are no longer friends and I am glad of it because I realize to he was manipulating me socially and may have been attracted to me. (at least my mom says he was and I agree.)
well two years later I am once again good friends with a older guy. Being older the guys have gotten comfortable with making dirty jokes near me and I think they are funny. They also tease me and another guy that is too old to like me that he likes me. (which I think he does btw because he teases me a lot and pokes me a lot.) Between the two of us we had made peace that it was obvious I wasn't gonna fall for him and that he could continue teasing me and it'd be whatever. My father asked me a few days ago about how dirty they got and I answered honestly that they were fairly dirty. He didn't like this becuase they are all between the ages of 25 and 30. Somehow from there he asked the right question and found out about aformentioned guy and him liking me. Due to past history this was a issue and I was forced to tell this guy to stop being so flirtsious with me. (something I am kind of glad for because I hate people in my personal space.) I unfortunetly feel cruel because I realized days after I had messaged him that he didn't deserve anything. he honestly was just being a guy. So now I feel confused and depressed, I am trying to obey my parents, but also not lose this friendship like the last one. (Said guy isn't helping because he is being cold to me.)
The real unspoken argument here is that my parents don't like me not having friends my age and especially don't like me having guy friends that are older than me.
Now I have to go find friends my age and interact less with these older guy friends. (which sucks since with all honesty I find 16 year old males and females annoying as shit.)
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Post by Thlaylie on Oct 29, 2010 19:21:18 GMT
You have to watch out for those old 25 and 30 year old guys,
They might hit you with their canes or roll their walkers over your foot.
I feel your pain about the 16 year olds.
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Post by FungusA on Oct 29, 2010 19:49:50 GMT
I'm feeling depressed, mainly due to 'girl problems'.
The girl I like has a boyfriend.
Replace 'like' with 'absolutly fell in love with' and replace 'boyfriend' with 'immovable barricade preventing me from fulfilling what I want.'
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Post by speach on Oct 30, 2010 15:03:25 GMT
when you lose ever thing in clouding the house you live in and have no choice but to live on the street you feel depressed. but i rebuilt my life and will never go back to that. in turn yes i know what it is to be depressed.
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Post by wormwood on Oct 30, 2010 16:04:57 GMT
The willingness of older (25-30yr old) guys to exploit younger girls is never to be underestimated, particularly in the RPG community. I hate to say it, but I completely understand where your parents are coming from.
Yes teens can be tedious, but you won't be a kid forever, and then you can flirt with all the dirty old men you want.
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Post by Thlaylie on Oct 30, 2010 16:54:41 GMT
Especially those antique archaic methuselas over 25! Like wormwood
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Post by wormwood on Oct 31, 2010 2:12:12 GMT
That's pretty funny, especially since Thlaylie claims to be 6 years older than me.
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Post by Thlaylie on Oct 31, 2010 2:24:14 GMT
I was wondering if you felt that when she said "older guys" and 25- 30 LOL.
I'm pretty much immortal at this point, perpetually immature.
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Post by psychichobo on Nov 2, 2010 0:47:36 GMT
I have a female friend who is a massive geek/nerd, yet is also incredibly attractive.
I am also the only male friend she has had who has not come on to her. It saddens me, because they only became her friend with the express purpose of trying to get with her.
As a nerd, I can tell you that single girls tend to get pursued rather heavily in nerdy communities, and more often than not there are a lot of guys who are much older but will still pursue these younger girls because they're rather immature themselves.
You say that you thought he was just being a guy, but really, there is a very likely chance that he liked you a little more than you thought.
I know it may seem arrogant of me to say I'm the only guy who didn't become her friend to get with her, but it's true. She's had a boyfriend nearly all the time I've known her, and I know her well enough to know that it'd never work as a couple. Then again, I'm not as big a nerd as most of the guys who try to get with her, so that could just be it.
I know it sounds bad, but it's best to really broaden your horizons when looking for friends your age. There are plenty who are mature and you will get on with, took me a while but I found them.
Anyways, sorry if it sounds like I'm unsympathetic, I just got tired of seeing my friend getting preyed on by so many people. I just don't want to see that happen to anyone else.
As for Depression, it's a horrible thing - hell, I was depressed today. Often there's a certain atmosphere that really enforces it, and it only needs a trigger and then you're stuck there. The loss of a friend group in particular can start these moods off, you only need to think about it once to get you there.
As stupidly clinical and cold as it sounds, the best thing really is to try and find some way to occupy yourself and keep yourself away from environments that make you depressed - for me I get worse when alone, cold, tired, or unoccupied, so I try to avoid these situations if I can.
And remember, you can take all this with a pinch of salt - I do get a bit judgemental at times. Still, when life gets you down, there's often always an up right around the corner. Whatever happens, it WILL all get better soon enough.
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Post by Jaka on Nov 2, 2010 18:32:07 GMT
@psycho I don't doubt he liked me, I just know he wouldn't act on it so what's the issue there. I have started feeling a bit better, I finally got with a girlfriend and told her about it and she was very helpful. SHe gave good advice and wassympathetic. As for you being a bit callous, I see it as karma for all the times I was the same to friends with issues. (sometimes people just need to hear the hard truth of the matter in order to get better.) Things will blow over eventually and life isn't so terrible, (bit boring but meh!) I can only hope this guy eventually forgives me for my harsh words to him and that life moves on. Thanks for being so supportive and helpful guys! (really!)
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Post by salamut2202 on Nov 3, 2010 10:27:18 GMT
my pop over the last 10 years has been wracked with cancer. for the last 6 months he's been bed bound. tonight he's dead. 'nuff said.
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Post by Poly on Nov 3, 2010 13:52:06 GMT
my pop over the last 10 years has been wracked with cancer. for the last 6 months he's been bed bound. tonight he's dead. 'nuff said. You think that's bad- There's a spider in my room! Just kidding, I have a heart. I hope you're kidding too, Salamut. If you aren't, I'm sorry for your loss.
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Post by wormwood on Nov 3, 2010 14:52:45 GMT
That didn't read like a joke. I'm sorry for your loss, and for the way it dragged on Sal.
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